Some people view life from an internal, and some from an external perspective. The person with the internal perspective, believes that nothing is impossible, in taking control of their own lives, they attribute successes to themselves, they are proactive and entrepreneurial.
The person with an external perspective views life differently, they are reactive, view themselves as victims of their environment, and have a tendency to give up before they get started on any task, This leads to learned helplessness and depression. they can wallow in self pity and generally feel helpless.
Most people are at some point between these two extremes, but the more internalist and proactive you are, taking control of your life the happier you will be, and generally the more successful in all areas.
Those who have to rely on others to make them happy are frequently disappointed and always living according to another's agenda. While the person who is in control of their life and has a proactive and positive outlook will be making things happen, and even if let down by others will know that they have many other options and actions that they can take.
Many who experience stress and heart attacks, put it not down to responsibility but the inability to resolve situations, or lack of control. Sometimes a person with no responsibility but no future as they see it, and from their perspective no ability to control their future will be very depressed.
The objective therefore is the take control, have an internalist viewpoint, and be as proactive as you can.
