You need someone to share your dreams with, to discuss your ideas and long term wishes, even if not practical or likely to ever happen. The dream should not be allowed to take over your life, but should give you something positive to look forward to.
The dream does not have to be a grand one necessarily and many times simple dreams can be made to come true. When it does however you will then need to replace it with a new dream or you will feel an anticlimax or emptiness, which would result in high amount of happiness from the dream coming true but a large depression to follow it.
Perhaps we also need to be aware that others who share our dream may see things differently, the man may see marriage in part as the chance to have sex in every room, and a step up from where you were before, while many women see it as a gateway ritual away from their old need to seduce and perform, and feel they have cemented their relationship, and until they want children sex is of minor importance, particularly if they have not been enjoying it. Clearly the difference in expectation form this dream will create difficulties, and lead to some unhappiness. We therefore need to fully discus with those who we share our dreams with, not only the dream but the implications when they are brought about.
Dreams can be large or small, many people in western society seem to survive unfulfilling and unpleasant roles on the basis of the dream of the next holiday or celebration, and are planning for the next one before each is fulfilled. If this helps them through life, we should not criticize them, although to some of us this may seem a less than ideal survival philosophy, where they are prepared to spend much of their time unhappy for the chance of a small number of happy days each year.
